How Often Should You Contact Friends?
Reach out to close friends every 1–2 weeks and good friends about once a month. Old or long-distance friends are fine every 2–3 months. Contact doesn't have to be long — a quick voice note or a specific "how did it go?" counts. Consistency matters far more than how much you say.
Match the frequency to the friendship
- Close friends: a touchpoint every 1–2 weeks.
- Good friends: roughly monthly.
- Old & long-distance friends: every 2–3 months, plus showing up for birthdays and big news.
These are floors, not quotas — the point is that no friendship you value goes too long without a single word.
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Start for freeRelated questions
Is it clingy to text a friend every week?
No — light, genuine contact reads as warmth, not neediness. Clinginess comes from pressure, not frequency.
What if a friend never texts first?
If you value the friendship, be willing to reach out first more often than feels fair. Friendships die in standoffs over whose turn it is.
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