How Often Should You Contact a Former Roommate?
Updated June 2026
A former roommate is often someone you were genuinely close to, simply because you shared a daily life. When that daily proximity ends, the friendship needs a new reason to keep going.
This guide is part of our Friends contact-frequency guides.
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Every 1–2 months
Every month or two suits most former-roommate friendships. You built real closeness living together, so reconnecting is easy — the trick is replacing the automatic daily contact with a deliberate cadence.
Why this relationship matters
Living together creates a depth of friendship that's hard to recreate, and it's a shame to lose it just because the lease ended. A light cadence preserves a bond that already runs deep.
Signs you're losing touch
- You haven't spoken since you moved out
- Contact dropped to zero once the shared logistics ended
- You only think of them when you pass the old place
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- A check-in every 1–2 months
- Meet up when nearby
- Birthday messages
An example schedule
A check-in every month or two, a get-together when you're in the same area, and a message on birthdays.
Common mistakes
- Assuming the friendship was only about the apartment
- Letting the end of shared logistics end the contact
- Never making a plan to actually meet
Frequently asked questions
How often should I contact a former roommate?
Every month or two keeps a once-close roommate friendship alive. You already have the closeness; you just need a deliberate rhythm to replace the daily contact you used to have.
We lost touch after moving out — how do I reconnect?
Reach out casually about a shared memory or an old inside joke. Roommate friendships usually restart easily because the underlying closeness is still there.
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